tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6828373550435970492.post43012155630207549..comments2023-03-31T20:33:03.722+11:00Comments on Diary of a Carer...: 4 Months since Nursing Home Placementelanorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10294623360908251468noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6828373550435970492.post-10998298302173284862008-11-17T05:29:00.000+11:002008-11-17T05:29:00.000+11:00Hi!Caring is such an emotionally challenging thing...Hi!<BR/>Caring is such an emotionally challenging thing to cope with especially long term no wonder it takes time to try and find a balance again!<BR/>Some people will never understand in a million years and other people well, they're afraid to delve to deeply incase it's catching!!<BR/><BR/>maz xMazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15413226622263684954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6828373550435970492.post-80831553324874179312008-09-03T21:14:00.000+10:002008-09-03T21:14:00.000+10:00I just met Mr SM today, and his blog brought me he...I just met Mr SM today, and his blog brought me here to you - and what a(nother !) wonderful find ! - how grateful I feel to you - my life changed so dramatically when my father-in-law with severe dementia died in mid-July. Very well done for getting a job - I am looking for a similar 'less stress but less reward' job, feeling the tiredness, hoping to move forward and find a new 'nomality'. You give me hope. Come back to "blog therapy" - we need your words, your insights, your honesty. We understand your grief. We accept your needs. Let us love you.ChickPeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08887692191178230666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6828373550435970492.post-44605306945802101702008-08-21T11:58:00.000+10:002008-08-21T11:58:00.000+10:00Oh yeah! take up writing about it. I know that it ...Oh yeah! take up writing about it. I know that it helps - it has helped me. <BR/><BR/>My wife & I went thru it for 8yrs with my mother-in-law & then for 7mos with my father-in-law. It drained me physically, mentally, emotionally & financially. Writing my stories is the one thing that kept me sane thru those days. <BR/><BR/>Those of us who have been thru it will read, understand, even feel what you went thru, and those who haven't may not (want to) know - and to others it may serve as an education. What really matters is that you would be writing for you - and to restore you to a state of normality. <BR/><BR/>So in my opinion - write away! I know I will be back to read it.pablohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00124128711940574082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6828373550435970492.post-41717509209464584462008-04-27T02:07:00.000+10:002008-04-27T02:07:00.000+10:00100% agree! One of my best friends told me how she...100% agree! One of my best friends told me how she hated to call me because it's always so grim - she really is a good friend, and wasn't saying "Don't tell me" - only that she longed for life to be better for me. But it made me feel awful, & I realised then how dreary it sounds to everyone else who hasn't trawled through caring for dementia - or for someone with a long degenerative illness. So I learned to shut up - or make a joke. Blogging really has helped because there are others in the ether who know exactly what it's like. I think I still modify the truth slightly but try not to. You write whatever you need to - I'm sure you're right, that it's cathartic. Those of us who care, will read and understand - and those who haven't been there and like Robert and A SM says, who simply don't want to know - well it doesn't matter so much what they think, does it? Good luck to you - I hope life starts to treat you kindly in 2008 and brings you joy. Tilly xTillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13009061934588684109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6828373550435970492.post-69992205759116296662008-04-22T05:26:00.000+10:002008-04-22T05:26:00.000+10:00I too am glad that things are better for you and t...I too am glad that things are better for you and that mom is doing well where she is.<BR/><BR/>On the topic of others don't want to hear: they don't want to hear about illness nor those who care for those with illness. I think that it's too uncomfortable for most to be discussing mortality.<BR/><BR/>And yes, those who haven't been in our shoes just can't understand, especially when dementia's involved.<BR/><BR/>I wish you all the best as you continue to recover from the stressful job of caregiving for a loved one.A Single Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09166325804204191286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6828373550435970492.post-80486802496410408532008-02-12T14:28:00.000+11:002008-02-12T14:28:00.000+11:00I'm pleased to hear that things are (slowly) getti...I'm pleased to hear that things are (slowly) getting better for you. I don't think that anyone wants to hear the problems of carers - they just can't imagine what it's like.<BR/><BR/>Best wishes!Roberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08210753167984462321noreply@blogger.com